Bing can no longer mow our lawn and it pains her greatly. Yes, she was one of those people who love to mow the yard. She said she felt like it gave her a great work out.
So, we hired a guy from our neighborhood who is newly retired and stir crazy.
He does a great job and I like him a lot....except that he will talk your ear off, so I generally just wave at him and run in the house if I see him.
But Bing talks to him frequently and yesterday she came in and said to set an extra place for dinner, that Jensen was staying for dinner. I did that. We grilled hamburgers, steamed corn on the cob (or as we call it on the prairie: roastin' ears), and I made a big salad. Bing had made a blueberry cobbler for dessert.
So, Jensen came in and we were all visiting. It was nice. As dinner was winding down, Jensen said that he guessed he should get back to the lawn, that he and his wife, Ellen were scheduled to visit a homebound woman from their church. They are very big in their church and Jensen was an electrician, so does lots of work for them pro bono.
Bing said it was her turn to do the dishes. Liv piped up that she didn't get to take turns, that she was always the "helper." Bing commented that this was called earning one's keep and we all laughed. I said that I planned to go work on my blog.
And then Jensen said, "I'm not allowed to use the computer anymore. My wife caught me looking at big boobed women and that was it...no more computer for me."
Bing, Liv and I just stood there, silent.
I think we were stunned.
And then, as if on cue, we all started moving around quickly. Goodbyes were said. Jensen went out to finish up the lawn.
Bing, Liv and I looked at each and laughed.
But, you know....I don't think it is all that funny now. Because every time I look at this sweet old guy mowing our lawn...I picture him porn browsing.
And it bothers me. I know that it is common for men to look at porn, but like most women, I find it totally baffling.
Still....every time I see him and smile and wave, I have this picture in my head.
So...I won't be judgmental, promise.
Do you or yours look at porn? Am I big prude?
24 comments:
i think mine used to... but it doesnt bother me too much...
I'm just laughing and it's totally funny to me. At least the guy was honest, right? Old people don't hold anything back.
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I am getting caught up on your entries... I hate mowing the grass, but I am sure Bing misses it and if I were not able to do it, I would miss it.
Good for you on the gym. I don't think I would have said anything to those women. At least you did. It may not have been what you wanted, but at least you said something.
Gah... I almost wish you hadn't asked if your readers view porn because now a zillion of them will say they do and that will trouble me. I have issues with pornography. Maybe they aren't rational. They probably aren't. But... yeah... that would have bothered me... a lot... and I definitely would have been angry that he said in front of Liv although I guess kids her age know about porn. I hate the way it is one hundred percent accessible for everyone now and has become almost natural... like junk food. In fact, I will say that porn is to sex like junk food is to real food. (And yes, I don't eat junk food, either. I know that makes me weird. Me and Bing and my boyfriend and about five other people, right?) It comes from normal parts of the psyche but in the end, in my opinion, becomes addictive and more attractive than real sex and intimacy... to the point where people prefer or become dependant on porn and junk food over sex with real people or eating real food. By the way, I am not all sex is okay only in a committed relationship. No. But I do think sex is real. It's smelly, viscous stuff just like real meat has blood in it not pink slime. Eat real food. Have real sex. End of lecture. Zc.
The thought of porn is a huge turnoff to me, a game changer in that like you, I find it hard to see someone the same way once I know. My husband was not a porn watcher either. And just for the record, I think reality shows are a kind of porn, too.
Big difference between looking at a "big boobed woman" and porn.
I do not. Never have. Not because I think there's something wrong with it, I just don't find it all that erotic. I'd much rather read some erotic literature and let my mind come up with its own pictures. As far as I know, Mr. EM does not look at porn online either. He's made comments before that online porn really doesn't float his boat, and he's really not the kind of guy to just say that for my benefit.
I would be just like you, imagining Jensent trolling the internet for porn every time I saw him. That is too funny! How do you attract these people into your life, Maria?!
Porn? as in pictures and videos?
Nah ... maybe a little way back when but now ... not so much (in fact, not at all)
However, a well crafted erotic story? words on a page, where the only images are the ones conjured up by my mind ... ohhh yeah. (Altho, tis *extremely* rare to find a good one ...)
OK, so now I feel like this is TMI !
Oh, I don't think I would want to have heard that revelation either. And I can't believe he said it in front of Liv! Some people just don't understand boundaries.
I will admit that I look at porn regularly. Here's why...
When I was growing up, talking about hygiene or sex with my mother was the most mortifying thing in the world. She overshared everything and I would have rather poked myself in the eye than to discuss these topics with her. So, that left me in the dark with a lot of questions.
What I found is that I am a visual learner. I also got many of my questions answered – things like hair (shave it off, keep a strip – what to do), is my …(insert anything) normal looking – questions like that.
Porn isn’t always a degrading, misogynistic medium. It can offer insight into taboo topics, it can be a teaching tool, it can be a source of humor (seriously, is all that moaning necessary? They haven’t even touched you yet).
I recommend it.
Guilty. The fiance used to in years past, but stopped because she felt it was getting out of hand. I look at it a couple times a week at most, mostly amateur stuff because the rest of it is stupidly acted.
It is somewhat common for many women I know as well. I'm not into it, because I find it funny instead of sexy. I think it is a healthy outlet for some people, & an obsession for other people..just like many other things are. ~Mary
Man, I don't get porn either. I mean, I *get* it, but I don't get *into* it. Too stupid. My imagination is better.
But it's kind of sad that the dude can't even use the computer because his wife caught him looking at the big boobies.
I read erotic fiction but I dont like to see porn
Porn does nothing for me - never has! I prefer to walk round town and admire the pretty ladies! I guess I'm a 'secret ogler' lol!
I don't have a problem with a guy who likes to check out a few hot boobies now and then, guys are so visual when it comes to sexuality. It is hard for us to fathom the fascination, be it boobs, vaginas, or penises. But I do think he was out of line for making that comment to you as neighbors, and in front of Liv yet. It's like he was trying to be too friendly, too personal. Ewwww. I don't want to know what my neighbors do for in-house recreation! As for porn itself, a little soft-core porn can be entertaining, and more often downright amusing... who comes up with those soundtracks anyway? YECH!! But I've also lived with a porn addict and that's when it takes a dark turn, their mind gets screwed up about what healthy sex between two people is. Porn flicks and pics are for entertainment, they are not real life! I can appreciate a beautiful body of any sex, but I'd rather vew something romantic than something raw, that's just the way my mind works!
Some days ago I happened upon a video of a reconstruction of a vagina, to "fix it" so the woman would appear virginal. It wasn't pretty. Nor pornographic. Which usually isn't pretty either.
When I was married to a guy he liked to watch it when we were working to be in the throes.
It got him excited. It got me annoyed.
One of the many reasons (one being..uhm, I'm a lesbian) we didn't stay married.
I look at pics of naked chicks, but I don't really watch porn. Once in a while I get curious but generally it makes me laugh!!
I'm with Anonymous, above, who said, "Big difference between looking at a "big boobed woman" and porn." He could have been talking about anything. There are LOTS of boobs on the internet, and lots of people who don't necessarily equate looking at big-boobed women with porn. He could have been trying to be funny, or he could have thought that mentioning boobs in a household of women, if not endearing, would at least not be verboten. For instance, I'm not really a porn-viewer, but I have definitely gotten caught up in the link-to-link-to-link circle of OMG! That woman's got Triple J's??? And Triple M's? WTF?!? That would be "looking at big-boobed women," and might be frowned upon by someone's wife, but would not make me a creepy pervert who tells the neighbors about my sick addiction.
Photos yes, porn not much. Crash Pad series is way too young. So it depends. Some women put their pictures out there because they want to be seen. But, I feel awful if I think it's some poor thing being exploited. I have never heard of any old butch porn. Let me know if I'm missing something.
Old people say things like that in front of everybody. I've heard stuff that makes me blush from all the old ones I've ever known. They have no time for left for social niceties.
No, I don't. I find it degrading to women. And I'm wondering how many google hits you will get on this post, Maria.
No to porn as well. Perhaps I'm a prude, but to me, the porn industry is just too many troubled pasts, predatory people, and overall exploitation. It is also degrading to women as well, but that's the least of it for me.
No I really don't care for porn, my hubby has looked at it in the past. It bugged me that he didn't want to share it with me....why would he not want to enjoy that sort of thing with his wife? I am not a prude of any sort!
I'm perplexed by porn. I've never seen anything hardcore, because it's banal. Frankly, I'd rather have sex with someone than watch someone having sex.
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