I am lost without ?
My child. I used to snicker at those insipid women who went on and on about motherhood, but then I became a mother and it was instantaneous. I was in deep deep deep love. NEVER felt anything that powerful in my life. I don't go on and on about how great she is to others....but I want to. I want to SO BAD.
What do you find ugly?
Ignorance. One of my sisters LOVES to make fun of Obama, but she had no idea who Michele Bachmann was. And she brags about being a Republican. She never watched ANY of the Republican debates. I find that ridiculous. She has NO knowledge of any of Obama's policies, what he has tried to do in office. She goes glassy eyed when I try to explain that the senate and the house have pretty much tied his hands behind his back and that the economy didn't just start sucking when he took office. Bush managed to stink up the place pretty well before his term. In short, she is ignorant. My other sister often talks sensibly about Obama with me when it is just the two of us, but when she is in a group and everyone is ganging up on me, she says incredibly stupid things like,"I think he's a Muslim." I just stare at her. I really have very little respect for ignorance. You want to debate politics with me? GOOD! But, EDUCATE yourself first. Don't bring your ignorance to the table and expect to get away with idiotic one liners.
What change to your routine has saved you the most time?
Um...okay. I thought of one. I started using shortcuts when I text even though I swore I never would. So...like if I was texting you this message, it would be "Um, ok. I thot of 1. I started using shortcuts when I text even tho I swore I nvr would. So, like if I was texting u this msg, it would b...
What is the most useful thing you own?
An automatic sprinkler system for my garden. I used to spend long hours watering by hand. No more.
What makes you tick?
Education. I educate myself as much as I can about all topics that interest me. I never want to get caught with my ignorance showing.
What is the worst advice you've ever received?
Don't take too many chances. Better safe than sorry. Courtesy of my dear departed sainted Irish mother.
What's something you need more of in your life?
I know I say this too much, but seriously...I NEED MORE SLEEP.
What's a small miracle that has occurred in your life?
Bing not giving up on me. I mean, think about it. She claims to have fallen madly in love with me when we were 18. We tried a relationship when Liv was an infant and failed. I wasn't ready. She moved back to New Orleans and returned about five years later when she got a job offer here that was too lucrative to pass up. We slowly became close again. And then I told her that I thought I really was ready this time. She was cautious, but decided to give me one more chance. And I've managed to stay put. I would NEVER have let her back into my life if she did that to me. EVER. Says a lot about both of us, yes?
What's something that is truly unpredictable?
The weather. I have lived in the heartland most of my life. And it is the weather. A balmy summer's day will suddenly turn into a vicious thunderstorm in SECONDS. A blizzard will come slashing through the prairie faster than you can say, "I just drove to work ten minutes ago and the sun was out!"
There's no excuse for ?
Child abuse. None. NADA. I don't care if you were beaten to a pulp by your parents. You are now a grown up and somewhere inside of yourself you KNOW that beating a child is wrong, you know this intrinsically but you keep doing it? GET SOME HELP!
What a common happiness mistake people often make?
I think love at first sight. I am not saying it t'aint so, I'm saying that I am doubtful. Know that the first 10 months of any relationship is basically a happy lie. You are putting your best foot forward and so is your love. Hiding all that nasty baggage. And most of us have at least some of it. You go around thinking that you stumbled into the holy grail of love or something. And then...ten months later? Wham. You have to come thudding to the ground. If you realize from day one that this is NOT REAL, NOT YET...you will do fine. If you think you and yours are a match made in heaven because every single day is nirvana? You are riding a delusional horse there, Trixie. Real love is thorny but worth it.
What must be experienced to be understood?
Pain. My partner, Bing is one of those people who never even got headaches. Perfect health. And whenever I was ailing, she always seemed to think that if I just took a nice long walk, I'd feel better. Now, she has unexplained back pain and it is pretty horrific...like.."I can barely sleep" horrific. She told me that she feels terrible for all the time that she thought I was being a whiner. "I can see how you must have wanted to slap me or something," she says. I did. But, I would never have wished pain on her. Ever. Still. Once you've experienced pain, especially helpless pain...the kind where nothing helps to soothe it...you are better able to sympathize with others.
What one thing you regret leaving unresolved?
My mother died feeling as if she was justified in disowning me. I will always wonder if I could have tried harder to make her understand.
When you truly love someone, you don't ?
love them conditionally. You are either all in or not. Loving someone with strings isn't love, it's power.
What's 1 essential ingredient found in all healthy relationships?
Trust. If you can't trust your partner, you can't love them properly.
What instantly makes a person unattractive?
Smoking. I was a smoker for ten years. Now just the smell of cigarette smoke makes me feel queasy. Plus, it turns your teeth yellow.
What's one priceless lesson you learned from a mistake?
Always say you are sorry if you know you are wrong. If you don't, time goes by and you are less inclined to say it and the person you wronged is less inclined to believe you.
How would you describe the last month of your life in one word?
What's a simple way to make a stranger smile?
Why do I want to make a stranger smile?
What's something everyone should know how to do?
What is the best part of your average day?
What do you see everywhere you go?
People trying to fit in. And it is so unnecessary.
What is the top source of heartache in your life?
My expectations that everyone should think just like I do. I set myself up for disappointment, yes?
What will you never put up with
I would never be friends with someone who
is a racist.
I have a weakness for
Munchos potato chips.
What has changed in your life in the past year?
My energy level. It goes down a little each year.
What do most people take for granted?
That their loved ones will still be there when they awaken.
My life would be a lot different without
What is the best thing that has happened to you in the past year?
My marriage has improved after we both made the conscious decision to work harder at getting along.
What do you always look forward to?
That first moment when I stretch out my toes in bed at night. I am always so exhausted.
If you could relive the past year, what would you do differently?
I would have visited Bing in Berlin last summer. She wanted me to, I was dragging my feet for some reason. I think it would have been good for us.
What's something that always leaves you wanting more?
A good book. I hate letting go of characters that feel like my best friends and family.
And one more...
In one sentence, how would you describe your relationship with your best friend?
More later....want to take any of these on, dudes?