Dear Blog Readers,
I do read all of your comments and e-mails. But, okay. You mystify me daily. I try to put out an interesting, compelling blog, but I am human and my life reflects that. I am sometimes dull. My life sometimes seems tediously dull to me and then something awful happens and I wish so badly that I could go back to my really dull life and just write about that rabbit in my yard instead of that big fight or some gnarly work problem.
I can't always figure you guys out. So, I went to my saved comments and e-mails and this is verbatim from...YOU.
Regarding Bing.
"I think you are way too hard on Bing."
"I think Bing sounds like she has OCD and I could never put up with that shit."
"Bing sounds like the perfect mate."
"Bing sounds like kind of a controlling bitch."
"Stop getting mad about her projects, I wish my wife took some initiative."
"I swear to god that if my husband took three YEARS to finish a bathroom, we would be divorced."
"Your and Bing's relationship sounds almost too good to be true."
"You guys fight a lot, don't you?"
Regarding Liv.
"You kind of brag too much about her."
"Hey, why aren't you writing about Liv much anymore?"
"Liv sounds like a robot child."
"Liv really needs you and I don't think you show her much affection."
"Liv sounds precocious. You need to tap that down early in a child or they are hell on wheels as teens."
"Liv sound so mature and wise. Lucky you!"
"Do you EVER have problems with Liv?"
"You seem to worry way too much about Liv and her school. Let her be."
Regarding everything else and the kitchen sink.
"You complain too much. I stopped reading your blog for a while because of that."
"God, is your life ever LESS than perfect?"
"You would be hard to live with, I think."
"I wish I lived with you. I want to fuck you really, really bad."
"You are way too sentimental."
"You are too logical. I can see why one of your old lovers accused you of being a Vulcan."
"I love the way you write."
"You write like you think you are better than everyone else."
"I love your politics."
"You are just another dimwitted Democrat who will ruin American life as we know it."
"I met you once and thought you were much prettier than I thought you'd be."
"I knew you in (insert name of town I grew up in) and believe me, you aren't that special."
"I love the music you put up on your blog."
"Your music kinda sucks. No offense."
"Do you and Bing ever have mediocre sex? Because you are always so moony about her that it is borderline nauseating."
"You and Bing are soooo much like me and my partner."
"You sound like a rich bitch."
"I like the way you hardly ever write about money."
"I think your gardening stories are really boring."
"I LOVE it when you write about your garden."
I get sick of your sainted Da stories."
"I LOVE your stories about Da and your sisters."
"I think your family sounds like a bunch of racist asses."
"I love the way you are so different from your sisters, but you all really love each other."
"I think you and Harriet should just fuck and get it over with it. C'mon, you know you want to."
"I wish I had a Harriet."
"I fell in love with your blog."
"I'm starting to get sick of your blog. Spice it up or you'll lose me."
Okay, youse guys...
MAKE UP YOUR MINDS!
I apologize to those of you who aren't interested in me or losing interest. I've never been much of a people pleaser, so go ahead and make your way to the door. Good luck to you.
Thank you to those who praise me. Thank you, too, to those who dislike me. Sometimes you piss me off and I go on a good rant and those are kind of healthy in a weird way.
I just write what is happening in my life, folks and how I feel about being a 50 something woman who is mourning her youthful looks and body, who loves her partner and sometimes wants to sell her to the highest bidder, who can't believe she has a daughter who seems to be an old soul.
I write about what is going on with me, my family and my world.
If I bore you, go home. Don't stop by. Go do something you love instead. Life is too short to waste it on people who bore you.
If you like me and my blog, come in and sit down. I have green tea. Want some? I also have those really good almond cookies. But don't think I baked them.
Thanks for being here. But...wow....
I just can't please all of you, so I think I will just go on being me.
It isn't easy being green, you know. But, I do try....
31 comments:
"You sound like a rich bitch" actually made me LOL!!
Hahaha - I am sure I've written a few of those, but man - when you put it out there for the world to see, you're gonna hear opinions.
Thanks for sharing those - a few really made me laugh.
Now spice it up a little.
(Seriously? Who says some of that shit?!)
Maria - ignore them!
Personally, I love your blog, find it very well written, entertaining and full of human interest! Keep up the good job!
I stumbled on your blog one day and have continued to come back every day since. I read and love your blog because you are REAL. We all have good days and bad days. We all love our partners and get irritated by them too. Why can't you rave about your daughter, she is YOUR CHILD and yours to be proud of...parents are allowed to love and be enraptured by their kids! Frankly I appreciate the ups and downs of your writing just because I experience ups and downs in my daily life too. Sometimes it's just good to know I'm not the only one living this kind of life! Thank you, and keep up the nice writing.
How on earth can some people be so uncharitable? Haven't they heard of the line "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"? Where are their manners?
I am a fan my dear friend; I love your writing, whether it is some whimsical fairy story or a warts and all description of an everyday encounter. I love the way you write about Liv and your love for her. The Pow Wow set me searching for information on the Lakota, their history, their current day lives and I was shocked by some of the statistics for those living on the reservations. I went to Google Earth and looked for the Black Hills, the Missouri River and the Casino! I spent an inordinate amount of time looking at the Black Hills Horse Sanctuary photographs since I love horses soooooooo you inspire and educate me and for all the wonderful teaching moments in Bing's life, I bet their are just as many in your working life for you.
Maria, I love your blog and I will always pop in from time to time to be swept up in Liv's celebration of her culture or her next swim meet or your next lunch with Harriet or movie with Bing. Keep it up dear friend despite the pain ... I hear you; I feel it too.
Blimey, I thought I received a few stroppy comments every so often, but nothing compared with yours! I think I'd wanna top myself after reading the negative ones but hey you can't please everyone, so you should just please yourself. :)
Yes please to the green tea and almond cookies.
I read your blog because you write well and you're interesting - and because you give me hope that my gay daughter can have a great life too.
I'm jealous. No one has ever commented on my blog about wanting to "fuck me, really really bad".
I mean, I assume that everyone does but still, it would be nice to hear every once in awhile.
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I keep coming back because I enjoy your writing. And yes, I would like an almond cookie, thank you very much. Green tea, not so much:)
Take care woman.
Mark,
Now you know I have to march on over to your blog and be the first one to hit on you.
And don't be too jealous. I get FAR MORE comments on what a dumb ass I am.
Someone even commented that I needed a nose job once and I sat there stymied because I never post pics. And then I started thinking that it was someone I knew, so I went to my google analytics to track them down and they were from some little town in Germany. So, um...were they psychic? And I spent the next week checking out my nose from every angle, until Bing finally told me to just cease this idiotic behavior. (Of course, I had asked her if she thought I had a big nose and she wisely told me that I had the prettiest nose that she had ever laid eyes on. Well, except for Anne Hathaway. She has this odd thing for her....)
We live in a world of few boundaries.
To the tune of..."It's my blog and I'll write what I want to." That's why we read it, for Pete's sake. Even the grumps.
It would be statistically impossible to write honestly and make every person reading happy 100% of the time. Be who you are, but don't expect everyone to agree. That's what makes the world interesting.
Hi Maria,
God knows we have had our differences over the years regarding politics but never once have I thought any of those things about you, your blog or your wonderful family. I enjoy coming here almost daily and reading your splendid writing. Sometimes it's a little "deja vu" but all of our lives are somewhat cyclical, don't you think? You are always engaging to read. I wonder what has happened to common courtesy and respect for another’s feelings. I see this issue almost daily and it saddens me that we as a society in its effort to become so “politically” have gone way over board with everyone thinking it’s ok to say anything to anyone. Sad really!
I for one would have you no other way than the Maria I have grown to love!
Pru
Hahahahaha...that cracked me up! Just goes to show how different we all are from one another.
Just keep on being real Maria! That's what makes this blog so compelling.
Screw everyone with an attitude or who has something to say that's negative in general but especially about your baby girl. That just blew me away. Low!
I cant remember for the life of me how I found your blog but the first post was about you sprinkling garlic salt on your breakfast by mistake and I've been hooked ever since!
What the hell is with some people? If I don't like someone's blog, I don't comment on it. I quit reading it. Geez.
For the record, I will be sitting down and staying for a while. I'll take some of that tea and just one cookie. Thanks!
oh my word. I can't believe people who comment that rudely! Would these people walk into your home and say these things to you directly? Maybe they would. Maybe I live in a bubble. But if I ever had these kinds of comments I don't think I would ever blog again. Honest to goodness. Keep on being you. I think your blog is amazingly written and I love hearing about you and your life.
Thanks to all for your sweet comments. I think the naysayers are hanging back and that is so unlike them, seriously. Especially my blog stalker. She almost always gets in her daily dig.
You know...I do like having readers from all walks of life. I was checking out my subscribers the other day and was a little surprised to see a lot of Christian bloggers. And I mean...like...people who make religion the focus of their blog. Since I am pretty non-religious, I can't figure it out. At first I wondered if they were getting ready to jump on me all together, but when time passed and all their comments seemed to be very respectful...well..I figured that they were just very good, very warm hearted religious people. I almost feel guilty every time I write the word "fuck" now. But...well...okay...not enough to stop that shit or anything.
I also have a lot of cooking blog writers who read me. I am guessing that they came visiting hoping for cupcake recipes and maybe decided to stay. Because it sure isn't to get baking tips.
No matter...I pretty much adore all of you, except for the blog stalker and a few others who like to remind me that I am a heathen, a dumb ass Democrat, a poor example of a mother for my child and just plain too something or other.
You educate me daily, the good, the bad and the ugly.
Thanks for reading. I am obsessed with my garden now, but I will visit soon and there is a great blog inside me about this garden that I am going to put in on Saturday, so...those of you who dislike my gardening posts...take note!
Maria, I love your blog and all that you share, the good and the bad.
Your comments made me laugh, and I love that you post those too!!!
Rock on woman :)
whoa, I don't often read what others write, but I had no idea people were so judgemental!!
i am glad the christians are being respectful. as one, i spent a good portion of my life surrounded by those who claim to be and act anything but christ-like...so that made me happy :-)
it never ceases to amaze me how the internet has given everyone license to just be rude, disrespectful and sometimes just plain nasty to other people.
as for me, my blogging has all but ceased to exist, but i always stop in to see what's going on in the Prairie.
as the kids say haters gon' hate. you just keep being you.
This one could be the subject of a whole blog post: "Liv sounds precocious. You need to tap that down early in a child or they are hell on wheels as teens." I won't go into full rant mode because it is not my post to write, but Liv's precocity seems to be expressed by compassionate maturity beyond her years, and what could possibly be wrong with that?
I guess some people blog comment like they drive: like cowardly bullies... emboldened by anonymity or a car they didn't themselves invent or build.
i have to assume that mostly people truly love your writing.
you didn't list the zillions of comments that say something like, "you should publish this stuff." i've seen that many times!
my only thought is: i'd have a hard time shaking all that crap off, think. i'm impressed you just shake it off!
zc
Maria, you can ignore those other commenters, because I'm the only one that matters, anyway! LOL! :)
Kidding! - of course! :) But I just want you to know that although I may not comment often, I always faithfully read your blog and love every minute of it. I think you are a wonderful writer and highly entertaining no matter what you write about. To this day, I always laugh when I think of that horrible day you had when you smudged way too much bright lipstick on your face and then stood up in front of the crowd and "triple-popped" a fart. LOL! That was one of the funniest things I've ever read.
And I love your meditative, somber, and angry blog posts, as well - so thank you for always being there for us, your faithful readers. :)
Ah Maria,
You just keep on writing what you want to write in that fantastic way that you do.
People who value lovely prose and the well-turned phrase describing the minutiae of daily life will continue to come back... the others, well, they are welcome to move on to other pastures.
Fugettaboutit. Don't listen to your detractors. You write about REAL life. Perhaps they are looking for a stylized version?
I don't often comment, but yours seems to be the only blog I return to time after time.
Perhaps no one else says this... so I will. Thank you Maria, for taking the time to put your thoughts down for us to read. It is appreciated.
I read your because I like it - enough said!
Crikey!
I though my, 'Maybe you just had a dream about a cat' comment could be construed as harsh, but golly, some people!
You just made Rick Nelson's 'Garden Party' get stuck in my head.
One of your anonymous comments up there pretty much said what I was thinking, that it would be impossible to please everyone and the comments you posted really are a testament to how different we all are.
One of my very best friends and I can watch a movie and come away with two different interpretations of the thing. Especially if it is a romantic/relationship type movie. I'm single with no children. She's a divorced mom. We have completely different outlooks on this part of our lives and it becomes apparent when we discuss certain topics.
I found your blog through Joey and I have always enjoyed your entries. I see that you have been told that you are cold, but then you write something beautiful and tender about Bing or Liv or a stranger whose tie you admired. You say you aren't as passionate about it as others and then a song moves you to tears. You are a wonderful contradiction, Maria and maybe that's why you have so many conflicting comments from folks. Maybe they haven't read as many entries as some of the rest of us who have taken the time to get to "know" you through your words here.
But what do I know? :)
Well how dare you be a human with human problems and a bunch of different sides to you? really, maria... ;)
1. I've been reading your blog for so many years now that I don't at all feel bad skipping posts that don't interest me that much. You land in my feedreader so I don't actually miss anything but my reading ocd is well under control. it's called choice, people, and it is yours to make. so feel free to bore me occasionally :)
2. sure, I have a certain image of you, bing, liv, you faults and virtues etc. via the blog. But gods, even I have a filter! if people are rude, ignore them.
3. the green tea is a no-go. I WANT MY COFFEE! or some earl greay? yes, now we're talking :)
p.s. cookies are always a plus
I think it was I who said "I wish I had a Harriet." If I haven't written it, I know for sure I've thought it.
Keep doing just what you do. I'm so glad I found your blog... years ago now! Crazy. Anyway, thank you.
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