Here's the scenario: someone you love has just gotten married or is serious about someone. They ask you for the best advice you have about keeping their relationship happy/healthy. What do you say?
Me? I'm no expert, but I can only say what works for us.
1) It is FINE to go to bed angry. This bullshit about not ever letting the sun go down on your anger is ridiculous. It is NOT better to stay up all night screaming at each other. Call a temporary truce and sleep on it. Things really do look better in the morning. UNLESS...one of you has done something truly awful, like cheated (and just been found out), etc. Then, yes...stay up until the injured party feels as if they can sleep under the same roof with you for at least one night.
2) It isn't necessary to love the same things, but be supportive of things that matter to your spouse/partner. Listen when they talk about a book they are reading that they love or a workout routine that they've just discovered.
3) Present a team face to outsiders. No matter what. NEVER side with your family against him or her and vice versa. You may not agree with them, but stand by them. Argue at home about it, not in front of friends or family.
4) You are NEVER going to change another person. All you can change is you and your reaction.
5) Do not call each other by your pet names in public. It is nauseating. It is like showing your vacation photos at holiday gatherings or having your child entertain the family with her rendition of "You'll Never Walk Alone" at a dinner party. NOBODY THINKS THIS IS CUTE EXCEPT YOU AND YOUR PARTNER.
Any other words of advice. Or...it might be easier to think of it this way:
If you could give your just committed self some good advice what would it be?