Thursday, June 03, 2010

Trying to come out of the fog

I don't think that I am depressed but the truth is that I am not myself since Bing and Liv left. I haven't been late for work, haven't sat around bawling, but I have often sat around staring.

Once, I got online and instead of blogging or reading blogs....I played Slingo for four hours. FOUR HOURS.

I've had a bowl of cereal for dinner every night for dinner since they left.

I had to get rid of the gin in the house because I was acting like a addict. I seldom drink, but found myself looking forward WAY TOO MUCH to a few gin and tonics at night. So, I poured the gin down the kitchen sink and haven't bought a replacement.

I know that I am stuck in a rut and I am sort of embarrassed but mostly not.

when I get home from work in the evening, I take off my business suit, but instead of putting on shorts, I slide into the same sun dress over and over again. I don't bother with a bra. I can get away with this because I am not well endowed. I can even take the dog for a walk and no one can tell that I am naked under the sun dress. I guess I should hope that there isn't a lot of wind....

I think I need a jump start. Wanna help me out here? Ask me a question and I will answer it. And c'mon, make me earn my keep here. Don't ask me what my favorite color is. Ask me what color I look worst in. Or ask me if I have ever read porn or the strangest thing I have ever eaten or what my favorite subject was in college. Something different.

I promise I will answer every question that isn't offensive or hasn't already been answered. (Yes, I am bi-sexual. No, I have never cheated on my wife. Yes, I have a pet. No, I am not a Republican.)

I feel the need to stretch my brain. Care to give me something tough to chew on?

And anyone care to answer one of these questions?

1) What television show do you secretly enjoy?
2) What is the dumbest thing you have ever said on a date?
3) Who is smarter, you or your partner? Be honest.
4) Have you ever acted out when you were jealous and what did you do?
5) What famous person do you think would be really good at oral sex? Why?
6) If you had to give up one food for a month and it had to be something you really like, what could you give up?
7) Have you ever gossiped about a friend?
8) What is a pet name that you and your partner use that is just plain idiotic?
9) Any one night stands? Do you regret them?
10) Ever dialed drunk to an old love?

Just curious. And I feel like I need a jolt. Not an earthquake. Not a tornado. Just a little kick in my pants. Will you help?

33 comments:

liz said...

My laptop battery is about to die so I'll come back to answer your questions. In the meantime, here's mine to you:

If you could take a test to find out what diseases you were genetically inclined to get and how long you'd live, would you do it?

wooliesocks said...

1-Til debt do us part.
2-Can't remember.
3-I'm smarter than all of my past partners, except one.
4-Yes.
5-No idea but I'm hoping to meet someone not famous who'll be good at it:)
6-Why would I give up a food that I really liked for month? I would give up chocolate before garlic. How's that?
7-Yes.
8-Never had one.
9-Many one night stands. Do I regret them? Yes and no. They served a purpose, helped me understand what I didn't want, drunk sex.
10-Yes.

Hang in there. It gets easier.

lyon de clarasvals said...

I'm trying to think of a great question. So far nothing that wouldn't get me slapped. I do have a few suggestions. Buy more sundresses, but wear something under them please, my heart can't stand these thoughts. Don't you have a vegetable garden to work on in the evenings? Play the radio, sing along loud. Teach the dog a new trick. I know you have books ready.
I've been there. Spent an entire summer in the same shorts and t shirt. Ate cereal or frozen pizza for a month. It's numbing,and before you know it, they're back and you didn't get half the things done you wanted to.

kristi said...

1) What television show do you secretly enjoy? I love watching some of those stupid MTV dating shows. They make me laugh! And appreciate my huband!

2) What is the dumbest thing you have ever said on a date?
Hell, it has been way too long since I dated so who knows?

3) Who is smarter, you or your partner?
Me, by a longshot. Sorry, it's true.

4) Have you ever acted out when you were jealous and what did you do? Yeah, I chased my ex boyfriend Ricardo all over town and my car overheated and I put water in it and kept chasing him...LOL.

5) What famous person do you think would be really good at oral sex? Why? Prince, the singer. He is just sexy even though he is short. And probably has a little dick.

6) If you had to give up one food for a month and it had to be something you really like, what could you give up? I don't know I have given up bread, pasta and sugar so I have given up a lot to lose weight.

7) Have you ever gossiped about a friend?
Yeah...I have.

8) What is a pet name that you and your partner use that is just plain idiotic? He calls me Pooky and I call him Poo Poo.

9) Any one night stands? Do you regret them? Oh yeah!!! Back in the day!! Well, one guy was plain creepy and wanted to use his finger more than his other U know what and kept asking me which I liked better. WEIRDO much!

10) Ever dialed drunk to an old love?
No, thank god but only because he moved across the country!

Karen said...

Um...I drunk dial/text on an embarrassingly frequent basis. I have been known to just hand my phone over to a friend in the morning and order her to erase all evidence of last night.

OK...my question to you. What do you predict for Liv's future? At this point, what do you think she'll grow up to be - professionally, socially or otherwise.

Antonia said...

Question-since you don't post pictures, will you give us a good description of you and Bing? Somehow, I can see Liv easily in my mind, but not you two.(Except the fabulous shoes.)If this causes problems with your lurker, forget I asked.
1)What television show do you secretly enjoy?
Family Guy and American Dad.
2) What is the dumbest thing you have ever said on a date? Everything. Which is why I don't date. I turn into a ninny of epic proportions if anything even remotely appears to be a date. I lose 40 IQ points,regain my childhood stammer, and it's way too sad. The bright side is, I don't catch on if someone's interested until I'm backed against a wall. Literally.
3) Who is smarter, you or your partner? Be honest.
Single, so that would be me. Honestly, I'm not happy unless I AM the smartest.You can see where that got me.
4) Have you ever acted out when you were jealous and what did you do?
Yes. Statute of limitations issues on this one.
5) What famous person do you think would be really good at oral sex? Why?
Russell Brand. Images from a misspent youth.
6) If you had to give up one food for a month and it had to be something you really like, what could you give up?
Does candy count as food? I'm on day 3 of a no sugar-June and it's a challenge. I can't think of any other food that would give me much pain to give up, especially if it was only for a month.
7) Have you ever gossiped about a friend?
Yes. My cousin and I are ruthless.Outside of him, I pretty much avoid it because it really isn't nice. And I can't deny anything convincingly.

9) Any one night stands? Do you regret them? Yes. No.
10) Ever dialed drunk to an old love. Worse. Dialed drunk to an old one night stand.

Workouter said...

I hope the blues go away soon, Maria!

As for the question.. I'm tempted to come up with something about sex, but maybe later. :) What do you think your life in Russia would be like (keeping in mind that sometimes US media exaggerates about the awfulness of it)?

1) What television show do you secretly enjoy?
I commute to work 2 hours one way every day and when I come home in the evening, I normally go online or go out for dinner. On TV I only watch the news, sometimes. Online I watch 30 Rock, House M.D., The Office and used to watch LOST (better don't get me started on this..), none of them are secret. But at one point several years back we had a reality show called Dom (which means House or Home depending how you look at it) and I hated, hated it, but in the middle of its run, I followed it for about half a year while telling my mother who was an avid watcher that it's a show for the uneducated.

2) What is the dumbest thing you have ever said on a date?
Hm. I really don't know. Lately none of my dates have been awkward. I don't think I can classify something I said on a date dumb, but rather in the past I always had these awkward silences and no subject to bring up. I guess now I started seeing people I truly like.

3) Who is smarter, you or your partner? Be honest.
That depends on what kind of smart you mean. We both are pretty advanced in several different subjects (e.g. bf - History, me - Linguistics), also he's a master at things like saving money (I'd give myself a B+ on this), although sometimes it just borders on obsession, I'm better at communication. Overall... I'm gonna have to say he's probably smarter. Which is surprising, probably the first time in my life. Smells like challenge, obviously I'll have to surpass him...

4) Have you ever acted out when you were jealous and what did you do?
Nothing spectacular. Just being generally obnoxious.

5) What famous person do you think would be really good at oral sex? Why?
I'd have to go with... Ellen. I have a feeling she might be good. (Slurp.) Whenever I look at Portia's happy face, I'm more and more convinced that Ellen's quite good.

6) If you had to give up one food for a month and it had to be something you really like, what could you give up?
It took me long to come up with an answer for this one. I could give up ice cream.

7) Have you ever gossiped about a friend?
Yes.

8) What is a pet name that you and your partner use that is just plain idiotic?
No idiotic name just yet.

9) Any one night stands? Do you regret them?
Yes. No regrets, it felt right at the moment.

10) Ever dialed drunk to an old love?
No. But knowing me, I think it'll happen at one point in my life because I'm the type of person who loses their mind every once in a while.

JY said...

1) What television show do you secretly enjoy?
I watched MTV's Newlyweds...Jessica Simpson Nick Lachey??? Yeah it was pretty cool. There... I said it.
2) What is the dumbest thing you have ever said on a date?
Gosh... don't make me try to think back THAT far...
3) Who is smarter, you or your partner? Be honest.
I have to say that I am... LOL
4) Have you ever acted out when you were jealous and what did you do?
No... I have been jealous but unfortunately did NOT act on it...
5) What famous person do you think would be really good at oral sex? Why?
I have to agree with one of your readers... Prince would probably be awesome!
6) If you had to give up one food for a month and it had to be something you really like, what could you give up?
It would be any typeof meat, like become a vegetarian for a month..that would be hard.
7) Have you ever gossiped about a friend?
Yep.
8) What is a pet name that you and your partner use that is just plain idiotic?
Gosh...we're boring.. we don't use any ....
9) Any one night stands? Do you regret them?
No one night stands either... prude are we???
10) Ever dialed drunk to an old love?
Nope.

My question: 24 hours till Armageddon. What things would you do and/or say to Bing and Liv before the final countdown???

Kate said...

If you had to bathe in a food of your choice what would it be? Alternatively, if you had ended up with more kids what would you have named them and why?
I'm not big on imagination with questions today. Oh and totally get the pouring of the gin down the sink thing.
Sending you thoughts of pants kicking coz I know hugs wouldn't do so much!!! lol
Kate

Anonymous said...

I've been a fan for a long time because your words flow like silk on the computer screen, I love it. As a newly-realized but never-consummated somewhere-on-the-bisexual-to-lesbian continuum, I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on one of my biggest areas of concern with this new frontier. Not in terms of logistics but more in terms of possibility, can lesbian sex involve mutual pleasure in as salient a manner as sex with men? The idea of always having to take turns is a foreign concept and it worries me!

And I have to say that Gene Simmons would probably be pretty freakin' good at oral sex... :P

Anonymous said...

questions for you:

1. new movie splice does not appeal to me but if you were to combine your dna with an animal to make new being, what animal would you pick and why?

2. what are your totem animals (in your opinion - that is just fine)?

3. what act of grooming do you slack on most often?

4. same question about housework>

5. what are you vainest about?
(you can skip that one if you want)

6. what do you love most about Bing? Liv? Socks?

7. how are you like your Da? your Ma? your sisters?

8. if you were a tool, what would it be?

9. same question with musical instrument

10. and same with city, body of water, and desert.

(my answer tothe last is New Orleans, Sargasso Sea, and Gobi)

some of my answers to your questions:

1. i used to like wife swap - don't any more. my tv list is amazingly similar to yours.

2. don't know.

3. he is. i have had two other very smart bfs. otherwise, usually i was smarter. but... there were a few other smart ones in there.

4. not really sure, actually which means i guess not.

5. daniel day lewis - bec. i can just tell. robert downey junior - sensual guy and enjoys an audience for his feats. jeff bridges - generous and skillful at anything he cares about. tim robbins (is that his name? ex of sarandon) - again, i can just tell. i think jeff would be better than tim, however. jeremy irons - sensual, sexual. in general, i have wierdly accurate intuition about people's sexuality but i keep that intuition turned off 99% of the time - too unnerving.

6. apples. black beans. i don't think i could give up green beans.

7. no.

8. hmmm.... not sure i want to share!

9. of course! do i regret them?
no. i enjoyed them. that is uncomfortable truth i am trying to better understand. how my sensuality/sexuality/fear of intimacy have worked in my life. but i'm in a different place now and no longer do such.

10. yes. and i regret it.

Anonymous said...

questions for you:

1. new movie splice does not appeal to me but if you were to combine your dna with an animal to make new being, what animal would you pick and why?

2. what are your totem animals (in your opinion - that is just fine)?

3. what act of grooming do you slack on most often?

4. same question about housework>

5. what are you vainest about?
(you can skip that one if you want)

6. what do you love most about Bing? Liv? Socks?

7. how are you like your Da? your Ma? your sisters?

8. if you were a tool, what would it be?

9. same question with musical instrument

10. and same with city, body of water, and desert.

(my answer tothe last is New Orleans, Sargasso Sea, and Gobi)

some of my answers to your questions:

1. i used to like wife swap - don't any more. my tv list is amazingly similar to yours.

2. don't know.

3. he is. i have had two other very smart bfs. otherwise, usually i was smarter. but... there were a few other smart ones in there.

4. not really sure, actually which means i guess not.

5. daniel day lewis - bec. i can just tell. robert downey junior - sensual guy and enjoys an audience for his feats. jeff bridges - generous and skillful at anything he cares about. tim robbins (is that his name? ex of sarandon) - again, i can just tell. i think jeff would be better than tim, however. jeremy irons - sensual, sexual. in general, i have wierdly accurate intuition about people's sexuality but i keep that intuition turned off 99% of the time - too unnerving.

6. apples. black beans. i don't think i could give up green beans.

7. no.

8. hmmm.... not sure i want to share!

9. of course! do i regret them?
no. i enjoyed them. that is uncomfortable truth i am trying to better understand. how my sensuality/sexuality/fear of intimacy have worked in my life. but i'm in a different place now and no longer do such.

10. yes. and i regret it.

John Gray jgsheffield@hotmail.com said...

sounds as though you are just being "normal"

"this too shall pass"
xx

Snooker said...

OK, I've got one for you which came to me while reading Liz's question.

Before Liv was born, if there had been an in utero test to predict a predilection towards homosexuality, would you have had it performed, and if it turned out positive, what do you think would have been your reaction?

tracer123 said...

1. The Brady Bunch.
2. I have no idea as I'm still with that person, but I'll bet a lot of what I said was dumb, I was in love.
3. Me, but she knows me, so maybe she is.
4. Yes, walked off and refused to participate in any conversation until the person left.
5. No idea, but if Monica Bellucci was gay and my gf I'd want her to be very good at it.
6. Bloody hell, I have no idea.
7. Of course.
8. Pass.
9. Nope, still with my one and only true love.
10. Nope.

Jean said...

1) What television show do you secretly enjoy? All those stupid but hypnotic "Real Housewives" shows. I'm the lone female in my house and it makes the men INSANE! Hey, maybe that's part of the attraction???
2) What is the dumbest thing you have ever said on a date? "I still love XX and if he calls me, I'll leave and go to him. Just so you know."
3) Who is smarter, you or your partner? Be honest. Haaaa! Heee! I'm smarter about some stuff, he's smarter about other stuff. I can still kick his butt, but not profoundly, in Trivial Pursuit.
4) Have you ever acted out when you were jealous and what did you do? Not really. I'm not a jealous person. I figure - you don't want to be with me? Don't be with me.

5) What famous person do you think would be really good at oral sex? Why? John Travolta and I have no idea why I think that, except that maybe I believe he would be all about ME. At least, ME FIRST.
6) If you had to give up one food for a month and it had to be something you really like, what could you give up? Pistachios. But I would jones for them night and day.
7) Have you ever gossiped about a friend? Oh yes. And I assume they have all gossiped about me. I'm good with that.
8) What is a pet name that you and your partner use that is just plain idiotic? Fee. As in Fee fi fo fum. How dumb is that?
9) Any one night stands? Do you regret them? Several. And a few I regret, but the rest - well, they were just plain fun.
10) Ever dialed drunk to an old love? I'm not a drunk dial girl. I try very hard not to do the kinds of things that make me want to shoot myself in the morning. Same reason that there's not a single solitary nude picture of me anywhere in the world. That crap never goes away and somehow turns up at the least opportune moments.

I want to know about the logistics of making love with a woman. Oh, I've seen the girl/girl porno. Is it anything like it seems? Do you like toys?

Hey, you said to ask ANYTHING!!!

Earth Muffin said...

1. The old Beverly Hills 90210, haven't watched the new one.
2. I was describing a story to a date once and, in an attempt to sound smart, I said one of the characters had an "Oedipal complex" and immediately realized that I was wrong. Trying to back-pedal and explain my mistake made me feel very, very stupid.
3. My husband is smarter than me, for sure. I'm no dummy and I have more formal education than he does, but he's definitely smarter.
4. Not that I can remember, but I've had dreams where I've really flown off the handle in a jealous rage.
5. Mick Jagger, hands down, with Steven Tyler running a close second. I could also see Angelina Jolie as a front-runner.
6. Ice cream
7. Unfortunately, yes. I can be a catty bitch.
8. We often call each other "Ma" and "Pa". Don't know why, but we've always done it.
9. Yes, I've had my share of them and, while I'm not proud of them, I can't say I regret them. Regrets are a worthless waste of time.
10. No. I've booty-called some former one-night-stands, but never a former love.

What is your #1, all-time favorite movie and, in true eloquent Maria fashion, please explain why.

Rebecca said...

3) Me. I mean not that he is dumb but I am just cleverer.

8) Sweetie baby cake. Then we get really dumb and add like honey pie chicken quack mcduck to the end. It's almost a competition to who makes it the more ridiculous.

Kelsi said...

1) Sadly, there isn't one. I'm not a big fan of TV. Maybe America's Next Top Model?
2) I've never been on a date =/
3) Single!
4) When I was really little, about 4, my mom's little sister (15) came to live with us. I kept asking my mom who she loved more, and I didn't want to share her.
5) Mia Kirshner. I have no idea why. Maybe just because I want her ;)
6) Perogies. I don't eat them that often, but I eat like, 20 at a time when I do.
7) Yes. I live with 50 teenage girls, it's bound to happen. I try not to very much though.
8) My ex-gf/best friend (how gay of us, right?) calls me kinks, because she knows I'm kinky now, but that's it.
9) Nope, virgin. I'm so fucking boring.
10) Lots of drunk texting. Mostly "I miss you"'s, and "i wish you were here"'s.

MmeBenaut said...

I like Karen's question. What do you think Liv will do professionally/intellectually when she is an adult?
Did you encourage Liv to study music because of Bing or for some other reason?

I secretly enjoy "Deal or No Deal" on TV
Dumbest thing: "Are you gay?" The guy in question didn't speak to me for a year (which I think was an indication that he wasn't quite sure of his sexuality).
I am smarter, no question.
Jealousy: yes, with a blogger who nearly stole my husband. I blogged about her and blew the clandestine affair right open.
I could give up chocolate but I could never give up bread.
Yes, I've gossiped, but in a kind way, with lots of empathy. Usually I can't stand gossip and don't join in.
"Pet". That's what he calls me. I call him by the name that his mother used when he was a little boy but I'm not telling what that is. Sometimes I regret having made this choice. When I'm mad at him, I use his real name and he does the same with me. I'm sick of being mad at him though. I just wish he would behave!
A few one night stands and yes, some I regret. Next day, when sober I thought "eeww, how could I have done that!"
Yes, dialled sober to an AWOL love, only to discover that he was holidaying with another woman. That instantly made him an old love.

Maria dear, can I suggest another tactic? How about getting dressed up to the nines like you are going out on a hot date and then treat yourself to that gin and tonic. I also suggest that you sign up for skype as soon as possible so we can chat to each other across the ocean :) then you won't be lonely. I'm on my computer every day and most of the evening so there's a good chance that we would connect. Can also just chat in real time without using the camera, if that makes you shy in your sundress. You could always put Socks up to the monitor of course. LOL

Anna said...

Maria, don't fret, it's perfectly normal that you have an adjustment period. Just think of how long it's been since you've had a summer to yourself! Who cares if you have had ceral for dinner four days in a row? Don't be so hard on yourself.
My question is this: how was medical school for you? What parts were really difficult (and I mean emotionally/mentally as well as stuff like holding a scalpel or whatever) and what parts were you most comfortable with?

If you don't mind, I'll take your questions and answer them on my blog. I'm not good at giving curt answers, as you probably know by now! :)

Chin up, mamacita (or as they would say in Germany: "halt die Öhrchen steif" i.e. keep those ears stiff :D)

Anna

This Mom said...

OK, first the answers to your questions:
1. I own the DVD's of Fraggle Rock and love to watch them, with or without my kids.
2. I haven't been on a date in over 18 years; I simply don't remember.
3. She is smarter when it comes to practical life stuff (money management, house/car maintenance, etc) but I'm smarter in the "knowledge" areas (spelling, grammar, literature, history, etc). We balance each other nicely.
4. For the most part, I haven't had reason to be jealous other than for some attention. And then I probably just pouted and moped until I got what I needed.
5. I think that Angelina Jolie would be fantastic at going down on men and women. It's her mouth, obviously as I don't really find her all that attractive. And I think that Johnny Depp keeps his lady very happy too. But that's mostly because I think he's perfect in most ways.
6. If it was only for one month, I could give up bread.
7. Yes. I'm not proud of it, but I have.
8. She calls me Sexy. 'Nuff said.
9. None. Definitely no regrets.
10. Nope.

So, I was stumped on coming up with a question for you until answering yours. And then I thought, "she should answer her own questions". So it's an easy out, but how about it?
OR...What was your favorite grade in school (kindergarten through high school) and why?

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Of course you're depressed. Missing both the main people in your life at the same time is HUGELY blindsiding, no matter how much warning you had. I wish I could help

I'll have to get back to you with a question, and also to answer yours as I'm dealing with a household crisis and my mind is blank.

But may I suggest that you begin by eating better, nothing fancy but healthier? It will give you satisfaction and also the energy to make good use of your time at home.

Anonymous said...

HeartinSF's comment made me think:

Which of Bing's nags (such as to eat better) do you actually think is right on?

And how about: What delights you most about her?

And: What animals do the people in your life - Harriet, Liv, Bing, etc. - remind you of?

And here's my favorite: What celebrity does Socks remind you of?! ;-))

And yes, you SHOULD answer your own questions - if you can and want to.

ZC (you prob recog which anon post above was mine, also)

Anonymous said...

1) I am not a big tv fan- mostly I watch the news and history or science channels, and a few select series; but occasionally I come across a "real life" show (Dr. Phil, or Judge Judy or similar) and I find myself fascinated to see how clueless, immature or idiotic people on those shows generally are. It is like showing up at the scene of a horrendous accident. You don't want to look, your heart breaks for those involved, and yet it all just so strangely fascinating.

2) Haven't dated in years. I was so young when I was dating, I am sure I said clueless, immature or idiotic things.

3) Smarts are split fairly equally between he and me. Depends on the subject. I am definitely right-brained; he is definitely left-brained.

4) No jealous rages to look back on with horror and/or regret. I keep my emotions pretty close to myself.

5) I honestly can't think of anyone. But my theory is you can tell a lot about what kind of lover somone is by the way they eat a meal. Someone who wolfs their food down without enjoying it is probably a lousy lover. Can anyone support or dispute this theory?

6) I think I could. I like so many things, and foods fall in and out of my diet regularly, depending on what's in season, depending what my particular cravings or inclinations are. Favorites, like chocolate or ice cream, can be abandoned fairly easily.

7) Yes, more in the past than now. The thrill of gossip usually proves to be fairly short lived and destructive to friendships, not so much to those gossiped about but to those you GOSSIP TO. You reveal your true nature and not many people want to be friends with someone who might gossip about THEM.

8) No pet names that are unusual or set in stone. I tend to call him "Hon" most; He calls me "Honey." Neither of us are shy about using expressive language in other areas of our life.

9) No one night stands. No affairs. No sex with anyone but my spouse. No regrets.

10) No drunk texting or phone calls. Not my style.

Questions for Maria:

You have fairly strongly held opinions/beliefs. Do you ever think something you strongly believe to be true might in fact be just the opposite? I am thinking of the last scene in the movie "Doubt" with Meryl Streep and Philip Seymour Hoffman. That movie has haunted me since I saw it.

What personality traits shape your life the most? (Compassion, independence, rebellion, humor, e.g.) How do they influence your decisions?

I agree with Antonia's question. Like when you read a work of fiction and develop a mental picture of how characters look, I have a very strong mental picture of you, Bing and Liv. There is a real-life person, that for some reason whenever I see her, I think she matches descriptions of things you have said about yourself. It would be interesting to be able to confirm that resemblnce or know that I have totally missed the boat on it.

If you could plan a perfect trip around the world that included seven stops, where would go and why?

And how about a realistic (no pie-in-the-sky 'free houses for everyone' stuff; I am talking real, serious problems) discussion of how you would tackle a major US or world problem or policy. How would you approach solving it, paying for it, implementing it. What would you predict would be the upside and the downside of the solution?

If you could eat dinner with 6 people (5 living and 6 dead) who would they be and why? Where would the dinner be and what would you serve?

liz said...

Ok, here are my answers to your questions:

1) What television show do you secretly enjoy?
Hoarders – I know that the people on the show suffer from mental issues and have often experienced traumatic experiences which have led to the hoarding. But I can’t not watch, it’s like driving by the scene of a car accident; I just have to turn my head for a glance.

2) What is the dumbest thing you have ever said on a date?
It wasn’t so much something I said as something I did. On my first date with S, I decided to show her my tattoo. Without waiting to hear whether or not she wanted to see it, I got up from my seat, turned around and lifted up my shirt to show her the tattoo on my lower back. I learned after that my doing so embarrassed her but hey, I must’ve been cute as she agreed to a second date!

3) Who is smarter, you or your partner? Be honest.
We’re both pretty smart at different things. She calls me the solutions person because I’m pretty good at finding a work around. She’s a big-picture thinker.

4) Have you ever acted out when you were jealous and what did you do?
No, thankfully I learned a long time ago not to make any decisions or do anything while emotional. I just need to remember that when I’ve been drinking! Lol

5) What famous person do you think would be really good at oral sex? Why?
Angelina Jolie – I’ve been infatuated with her since forever. I think she just oozes sex and would likely be very good at every aspect of it.

6) If you had to give up one food for a month and it had to be something you really like, what could you give up?
Chicken is my high on my list of favourite foods but if I had to give it up for a month, I’d manage ok I think. I’d likely just eat more vegetables, tofu and the occasional beef dish.

7) Have you ever gossiped about a friend?
Yes, but mostly as a venting mechanism for the stuff that drives me crazy. If a friend tells me a secret or shares something I know they want to be kept private, than I do keep it private. But I’m fine with gossiping about small stuff.

8) What is a pet name that you and your partner use that is just plain idiotic?
We don’t have pet names for each other. Every so often, I’ll call S 'babe' or 'baby' but that’s about it.

9) Any one night stands? Do you regret them?
Well, sort of. It wasn't like the traditional pick-someone-up-in-a-bar type of one night stand. More like, me and this girl were hanging out a few times. I was in between girlfriends and she was getting over someone and we slept together once. I left almost immediately after it was over - she was horrible - and stopped talking to her not long after.

10) Ever dialed drunk to an old love?
No, but I’ve drunk texted an old love. I don’t know what I was thinking (see #4), but I texted her while out one night and had no recollection of it until the next day when I was going through the messages on my phone. It was a brief exchange, maybe 1 or 2 messages so nothing too damning or embarrassing.

Anonymous said...

show: tmz

oral: tim meadows, robert sean leonard, skeet ulrich, tom skerrit, john corbett, andy samberg, sam shepard, sam waterston

C said...

oral.... although he gags me i think mick jaggar and steven tyler for men... and ellen and angelina joli for gals.... hmmmmm kinda wierd, huh?

my question to you is this;

have you ever seen a UFO?

Lulubelle B said...

1. Divorce Court. I got into it the year I was sick. I really liked the judge and no matter how much my life was messed up, I wasn't as bad as the people on the show. Now that I'm back to work more than full time I can only see it on days off, but it still cracks me up.

2. Hello

3. This came up often back in college. My BF changed majors from photography to engineering. He was working hard to catch up on all the math and science, struggling sometimes. I was studying broadcasting and English, or as he saw it, hanging out in the studio and reading books.

We decided to take an elective toghether to settle it, something neither of us knew anything about. "Impact and Development of Atomic Science". We sat side by side in class. BF took extensive notes. I listened to the prof. At home BF read the textbooks, highlighing as he read, making notes in margins. I read, too, but took no notes. Results? I got an A, BF got a C+. Did this settle the question? Hardly.

5. Whoopi Goldberg. William Shatner (current edition, not Kirk).

6. I've given up coffee and chocolate for the last 3 years, but it hasn't really been my choice. My palate changed during chemo and now I cannot stand either. Walking down the coffee aisle gags me. Chocolate seems like a rough breakup with a true love. I want it back, but it makes me want to scrape my tongue and gargle. Now it would probably be warm bread with melty butter.

7. Once and it nearly destroyed the friendship. Took a year to earn back her trust.

8. College BF tried calling me Lumpy for a while. He thought it would motivate me to drop a few pounds. Right.

9. Yes. No.

10. Not dialed, but I have Friended a few old loves on FB, usually in the midst of sleepless night. They say sleep deprivation impairs you as much as a couple of drinks. LOL.

Questions for you: If you could have a magical or super power, what would it be? Would you use it for good? Evil? A little of both?

trinity2 said...

Question 9: right here:
http://fruit-on-the-bottom.blogspot.com/2006/11/its-finally-catching-up.html

the only daughter said...

1) What television show do you secretly enjoy?
Real Housewives (however un-real, non housewifey)NY and Atlanta versions.
2) What is the dumbest thing you have ever said on a date? "I AM NOT DRUNK!!" I so totally was.
3) Who is smarter, you or your partner? Be honest. Now former (x2) and me both x.
4) Have you ever acted out when you were jealous and what did you do? No.
5) What famous person do you think would be really good at oral sex? Why? so many interesting options have been said. beyond those mentioned, my mind is blank...except for thinking about Foxy Brown, Pam Grier. Not relevant to this query. Maybe. ;-)
6) If you had to give up one food for a month and it had to be something you really like, what could you give up? Due to allergies I'm being forced to avoid tomato based and citrus items. I miss tomato & bbq sauces. I miss grapefruit. :( I think I could give up anything (w/regard to food) for a month. I might not be fit to be around, but I could do it.
7) Have you ever gossiped about a friend? No.
8) What is a pet name that you and your partner use that is just plain idiotic? n/a
9) Any one night stands? Do you regret them? Yes. Yes.
10) Ever dialed drunk to an old love? Yes. She didn't answer and I don't think my message was toooo embarrassing.

My question: Is /Was there anyone in Bing's life who warned her about getting involved with you & vice versa?

And / Or: If Bing was not in your life and an opportunity to marry (or be with FT)Liv's father was presented, do you think you would have (then: when he first expressed wanting to be part of Liv's life) or now, knowing much more about who he is and how he parents Liv?

Anonymous said...

Just a few answers...


1) What television show do you secretly enjoy? I have a few. I LOVE real house wives of the OC. It's bad, and the show about the girls who are in trouble... It hink it's called Pretty Wild. It's soo bad that I like it but it just shocks me that there are people out there like that!


3) Who is smarter, you or your partner? Be honest. Sometimes i'm pretty sure he is.. but it's only when it comes to certain things education related. other times, a lot lately I think he's a huge moron.



6) If you had to give up one food for a month and it had to be something you really like, what could you give up? I gave up PB&J's it was the hardest thing, but amazingly I lost weight from not eating them.

Caz said...

1) What television show do you secretly enjoy? None secretly. I'm pretty open about my love of bad TV. I'm addicted to cooking shows and home & garden renovation shows.

3) Who is smarter, you or your partner? Be honest. We both are in different ways. He's math smart and spatially smart. I'm general knowledge, language and literature smart. Although he did score about 2pts higher on an IQ test we both took. I don't think it was fair because it was multiple choice and/or more 'mathy' when writing is my strong suit.

5) What famous person do you think would be really good at oral sex? Why? Johnny Depp & Pierce Brosnan (only in character as James Bond). On the flip side I think Tom Cruise and J Lo would be AWFUL.

6) If you had to give up one food for a month and it had to be something you really like, what could you give up? Pasta. But I wouldn't be happy about it.

8) What is a pet name that you and your partner use that is just plain idiotic? Mong. Which is short for Mongy or Mongol or Mongoloid and is unfortunately an Aussie slang term for retard. But the cutesy nickname seems to be common among Aussies.

9) Any one night stands? Do you regret them? Yep. Quite a few. Most I don't regret, some probably weren't great decisions but none have impacted me in any major way so I don't worry about it.

There were too many to answer, but there are mine.

What veggies do you grown in your garden? Which is your favourite? Which do you grow just because it's "good for you"?