Friday, October 23, 2009

Some days are just like that

So, I went to a benefit last night. It was a cold, rainy night and since the event was held downtown, I decided to just go from my workplace and meet Bing there. I got all dressed up in my office, putting makeup on at the employee bathroom sink, where the light makes us all look like Cloris Leachman in Young Frankenstein.

But, I decided to make the best of it. I made it to the event right at the end of cocktails and right before dinner. Bing was waiting, trying not to look impatient. I did my usual stumbling sweeping into the room. Procured wine, found our table. The guest artist was an old friend of Bing's and mine, so we sat at the VIP table with her. People kept coming over to ask her for a photo, an autograph, etc.

Bing sat on my left, a youngish man sat on my right. I introduced myself and he did the same. We discovered that we had actually spoken on the phone a couple of times as he is a local reporter who had done a story for the newspaper and he had called me as part of his research once.

"Wow," he exclaimed. "You sounded so much younger than you are."

Well, now.

Thank you? Fuck you?

I said neither, just glassily smiled at him and pointedly ignored him for the rest of the evening.

Because I am a vain old bat.

30 comments:

Heather said...

I was getting a manicure once when my husband walked in to wait for me. The nail tech (who was Asian and spoke very broken English) asked how long we'd been married. When I told him, he sighed and said, "You must have been beautiful back then."

Yep,some days are just like that.

You are lovely, Maria!

carole said...

Look at the glass as half full... at least your voice and the way you're represented by it makes people think you are younger than you are. You could sound like Diane Rehm or Bailey White,,,,

deb said...

The guy's a real charmer huh?

Jean said...

Youngish. And extra dumbish.

Amanda said...

As someone who is constantly putting their foot in their mouth I kinda feel for the guy, although he should have apologized. I had something very similar happen where I told someone "Wow, you're younger than you look!" *Forehead/Palm* I meant to say "You look younger than you are." She didn't believe me when I tried to correct myself. To this day I don't think she has forgiven me for that one. I can't blame her.

e said...

Ha! Thanks for the laugh, Maria! Sometimes it comes out of the blue like that and wham! Brings us up short.

Graceless, ageist, mannerless punk! Bah!

LL Cool Joe said...

God how depressing. I remember going to Wedding in the summer and there was a woman there who hadn't seen me for years. She said "Gosh you've ...you've..you've" "Grown old?" my mother quickly added.
I didn't speak to either of them for the rest of the day. Shit.

Eric said...

He definitely deserved a 'fuck you', or at least, 'Well, you sounded much better looking.'
I love Young Frankenstein, gotta get that for Halloween.

the only daughter said...

Wow, Tactless little bugger wasn't he.

Wine and Words said...

That was a turd of a thing for him to say! You should have said, "And you sounded so much smarter!"

Annemarie of Holland said...

Leaning towards 'Fuck you'.

Maybe a 'And you look just the way you sound' would have given him something to think about.
On second thoughts, nah. Guys like that don't have a working brain.

Anonymous said...

What an asshole! When something like that happens to me I usually can't think of a response until hours later. I'd rather not create a "scene" so I would just ignore the person like you did Maria.

Debbie

Fusion said...

Wow, guy needs a major lesson in tact...
You handled that well IMO.

iamheatherjo said...

That guy needs to think before engaging his mouth.

I think people are shocked when they see me in person because I sound small and very young on the phone and I'm neither of those things.

Val said...

oh you were much too kind. I wouldn't have been able to just ignore him! Good for you, though, for being a bigger person than I obviously am!

inspiredtolive said...

I would have junk punched him. And then I would have told him he sounded less troll-like than he is.

Because i am a bitch.

Camlin said...

Clearly, diplomacy is not his middle name.

tracer123 said...

I'd have loved to have been there!

Raven said...

Older women are hot!

p.s. my word verification is canesca...i'm floating away to an italian island with my hot, older lover...and i'm pushing 40, btw.

Diane said...

I can't agree that you're a vain old bat, but can agree that you are lovely.

Along the same lines, a few months ago I showed a female fellow classmate a photo of my sister taken about 10 years ago. She said "oh my goodness Diane you're sister is so much prettier than you. I mean I'm sorry to say that but you just don't even look like her." Stopped me dead in my tracks. Just wish it weren't true! :)

Anonymous said...

I'm guessing he is not involved in any relationships at all.

sandy shoes said...

Sigh.

Recently, a check-out person asked me when my baby's due. I'm not pregnant, and told her so. "Oh," she said, "everyone here is, so I thought..."

Maybe I should've just let it go, right? But I said, "what, everyone working here is pregnant, so you thought I must be pregnant, too? Do you have shit for brains?"

And I don't feel even a little bit bad about it.

(You'll have to take my word for it that although my stomach is nowhere near flat, I don't look pregnant. Maybe my jacket was puffed up or something. Who knows.)

(You also have to take my word for it that the check-out person is not mentally challenged in any way that would have made my remark not just caustic, but cruel. I wouldn't have said it in that case.)

Gypsy said...

I'm still trying to get over how short this post was so give me a moment to collect myself...sorry Maria, just a teeny little joke.


I went to a surprise party for my brother in law who is 4 years younger than me and my sister (who is 6 years younger)introduced me to a young lady she worked with without mentioning our relationship to each other. The lady then asked, "oh are you Julie's or Stewie's Mum?"


I was so shocked I completely forgot my manners and asked her if she was fucking joking. Stewie was 40 at the time which would have made me about 58-60 and that's being generous. I'm not even 50 yet some 6 years later.


She spent the rest of the night apologising but I was devastated and just told her to leave me the hell alone. That was mean I know, but FFS, what was she thinking?

Miss Healthypants said...

All vainness aside, that's just a freakin' jerky-ass comment for him to make.

heartinsanfrancisco said...

This reminds me of a young man I once met who said, "You must have been incredibly gorgeous when you were young," then interpreted my failure to respond as modesty and plunged right along with, "You WERE, weren't you?"

I would have liked you to accidentally spill your wine on him, but will have to settle for ignoring him. You rock, while he has the brains of one.

Karen said...

Why don't people think before they talk?

Earth Muffin said...

Was he with a date? I'm guessing, No. Hopefully your pointed ignoring of him the rest of the night made him realize his faux pas. But, again, I'm guessing, No.

What wonderful restraint you had. Good for you!

KMae said...

I am 62 & clearly not a spring chicken! But lots of Flight Attendants ask me whem I started flying...

1968...

To which they giggle & reply Oh! I wasn't even BORN yet! heheheheehee!!!

To which I reply

Oh! You don't LOOK that young! hehehehee!!!!!

MmeBenaut said...

All reporters are children these days; with the tact to match! (No insult to Liv of course).

Patois said...

Having worked with reporters for many years, I have to say I'm not surprised.