I received notice from a fellow blogger today that she is taking me off her blogroll as I am a "lazy blog correspondent." She commented that she reads my blog daily and that I could at least have the courtesy to do the same. She noted that her google analytics show that I only visit about once a week.
Yeah, that sounds about right to me. This blogger suggested that I "prune" my list of blogs that I read so that I can get to them all in one day. She said that this worked for her.
Well, I am glad that you found something that works for you. It won't work for me. Take a look at my blogroll. I like each and every person on that list. I won't be doing any pruning. I'm not one of those people who put just anyone on my blogroll. I have to genuinely like their blogs and read them as much as I am able. I do this.
Unfortunately, I do have a life beyond blogville. If I sat all day long at the computer, I could probably read everyone's blog each day. But, I can't. I have a living to earn. A child to care for. A spouse who I kind of enjoy talking to from time to time.
My blog is a part of my life. They key word here is "part."
If I was glued to the computer, I would start to find this whole blog thing tedious. As it is, I find it a joyful part of my life. I like reading blogs.
And I am never hurt if someone doesn't visit every day. I hardly expect them to. I understand that we all have lives to live. I think it important that we all get our rest, see our families, read some good books and watch a little mindless TV now and then. In fact, I am always very surprised and delighted to get posts on my blog. It's like my Sally Field moment every day. ("You like me! You really like me!)
So, I will miss your comments on my blog, and I am sorry that your feelings were hurt. But, I am not going to make any changes. I yam what I yam and all that shit.
One thing I love about blogville is that there are no big stringent rules. There seems to be room for a wide diversity of us. If someone doesn't like what I have to say, they can skip on to another one. I can do the same.
We are here for each other and enjoy each other. But, we aren't joined at the hip. We aren't in deep enough with each other that I feel compelled to check on all of you each day. I know that your lives go on nicely without me, just as mine goes on without you.
But, I am glad that you are here. I enjoy your company.
So...hey, disgruntled post writer: Check in as often as you like. Or not. It's your choice. And I will still enjoy your blog if you don't mind.
Once a week or so.....
33 comments:
I'm with you, kiddo. Blogging is only a small part of what I can do in a day. Most days, I don't even have much time to read blogs. Silly me, to have a life. And, since I use a reader to catch up on blogs, I don't always go directly there - unless I mean to comment. That is what I like about blogs, though. The comments, I mean.
I read as I can, post as I am able. I tried posting today, but I just rambled on too much, and didn't want to inflict said ramble on the precious time of my readers. :-)
So, today I will settle for commenting only. Toodles!
Very nicely put!
This is almost funny, in a pathetic sort of way - telling you how often to read and when to prune your blog roll! Blogging and reading blogs are activities of choice, not command performances.
Hey there, have to say hi to the person who has kept me bouncing back, thanks for the little hello's on my blog. I am kinda back in life again although not completely. but will be reading if maybe only weekly, now must go read all the posts I missed on your blog.
I guess I was not aware of the rules, either. I am like you, I do not have the time to sit here day in day out, and I really DO try to get to each one every day. But my job, my family....I often wonder how others manage to fit all of them in....I WELCOME you once a week or once a month....good heavens, I had really thought that friends in blogland would be different than real-life friends, as I often resent all the expectations that people place on a friendship, which would probably explain my lack of interest in the real thing....but recent events in our little circle makes me understand that people are people, in real life or on the net, and we are just never happy. hmm...
Oh that's too bad about the other blogger. I have a large blogroll, too and don't always get to my very top favorites every couple of days! You are one of those :)
Sometimes, in the morning when I'm getting ready for work (which is when I blog) all I have the time to do is to write a quick post! That doesn't mean I don't enjoy reading and commenting on my favorite blogs too, just didn't have the time.
As someone who practically lives on the computer....
I hear you.
Where is this whiner? Want me to punch her for you?
Just kidding of course.
I just LOVE your blog. I don't get to it as frequently as I'd like, but I always visit when I can. I also often read via bloglines, so you'd likely not know that I paid a visit. Not that I'm trying to hide or anything, it's just convenient that way. A lot of my regular readers don't show up in my stats, and bloglines has a lot to do with it.
I think you handled this very well, Maria. I think I would have been much more snarky than this when someone tried to tell me how I should read and comments on blogs. In fact... I may have just come up with an idea for a weekly feature on my blog.... hmmmmmm....
Wow, I didn't realize I was supposed to check in everyday once I got added to someones blogroll. That's good to know. And also, I'm on blogrolls of blogs that I wouldn't even have known existed if it wasn't for my statcounter. What do I do in that situation?
And, how does this person know for sure that you don't read everyday. If you use an RSS feed service like bloglines you won't show up in their stats unless you leave bloglines and go to their blog.
And just so you know, I've been planning on adding you to my blogroll, I love your blog, but I'm lazy and I destroyed a lot of brain cells in my youth so my mind is, uh...what was I saying?
See to me, I blog and read as I want to. Some days I sit and read everyone, some days I don't. It's a time issue too. But I don't get bent out of shape if people don't "reciprocate". I'm not doing it so I can feel like I'm important. I'm just finding people to connect with and to vent out my daily stuff.
So good attitude Maria!!! If people are that worried about it, I say let them go on their merry ways.
Darling, I love your blog. You know this. You and me? We go back a few months, don't we...lol I keep up with you via bloglines, and sometimes I actually visit every person on my blogroll "personally." No one should have to explain that they have a LIFE outside of the computer. It's just a given!
I just can't believe that someone has the nerve to order you to do such things. The GALL. "Don't go away angry. Just go away."
I can only shake my head. Really. Don't you feel like you are 15?
Holy crippee's... you handled that very well!
WHO DOES THAT?
I consider this whole "blog thing" like an individual sport. You participate when you want, and you choose whom you want to play with when you want to play...
I like you Maria. I enjoy your blog and appreciate all your comments.
Thanks for "playing" with me!
Compulsive bloggers are freaks.
Thats all I have to say about THAT.
When did we start having rules? And if we didn't have our daily lives, what would we blog about?
GOSH...control freak much. I would never tell someone when to read my blog I would just be glad they visited! By they way, I just found you so I'll be reading!
oh my goodness.
what drama.
um....when I signed up for blogger, I didn't get a rule book. So, I hope i'm not in violation of anything...
Of course...I tried using that shit with a cop once...I was told that "ignorance is no excuse for not obeying the law."
WTF am I going to do? I don't know the rules!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm always thrilled to have you Maria...once a week, once a month...I will take what I can get, girlie. Haha. Have a good weekend.
I'm so with you on this, Maria.
I have trouble getting a connection in my tiny isolated village, so I blog mostly while I'm at work and then disappear off people's radar when I'm at home.
And life does come first.
That's right Maria...it's a free country...even in blogsphere..if you wanna be a "compulsive" blogger..ya can..if you don't, you don't..why is it that there's ALWAYS someone who is unhappy with something...God...just do ur own blog and mind ur own business! am I right???
I'll have you once a week. (grinning wickedly)
When I did my "Proxima's Guide to etiquette" post. I tried to make it clear that those "rules" are how I try to manuever through the blogosphere. And if other people agreed cool, but in all honesty, you can't tell someone how to blog. That's just silly.
Later dear!
-P
now THAT's what I call 'over the top' persnickety. Hey there are ALL types, Right? Good Lord. Can you imagine if you felt compelled to read each and every link you ever linked to, every day and commented on them all and then keep track of the people who commented on yours and then contacted them to let em know that they were not up to snuff? Oh wait, that's what she did. My goodness, what's she running there? A bank? Your balance is low...just sayin....
My little corner of Blogville is always open to transients...
Geez - I never check my stats.
I'm happy just watching my counter go up a few clicks and checking for new locations on my cluster map. I worried for a long time before installiing them that these two elements would infringe on my readers' privacy.
Maria - I found you today by linking through somebody else who left a comment on The Center For Improved Living. Your title caught my attention and I'm so glad I clicked through. I'm right there with you on the security/anonimity issue. Even long-gone pets have aliases on my blog. ;-D
There are rules!?! Yikes. And since I don't have a statcounter, I don't even know who comes on my blog. I'm surprised that people might know (or care)when I some on theirs. I like a blogoshere that is a little loose. Puh-leeze, no apologies.
I don't know how to check stats... now I kind of want too. I've always wanted to know what google searches bring people to my blog. That being said, I only visit once a week or so. I can't do it more than that, and it takes me hours to read everyone's blogs and write my own entry. When I was working part time and not commuting it was easier, but I also needed the community more because I was so alone. Now I actually have a few friends kind of... and I play tennis. It's sort of sad that your ex-blogger friend is so harsh. He/she could have taken you off and just told you he/she was pruning to a bloglist that better reflected her/his everyday correspondents - without being so harshly judgemental.
Yeah, Maria, I've been meaning to talk to you about the frequency of your visits to my blog, as well. Frankly, I just don't think you're committed to blogrolling my blog and... just kidding. :)
I'm visiting from Jill's. Congratulations, btw, for being her very first "charming and delightful post of the week."
I don't even KNOW who all comes to my site (unless they comment, of course), and I DO have a site meter. ;-) I like the numbers... I like the "google visits"... but who has time for everyone on their blogroll? Do you suppose she calls every one of her friends IRL every day????
Wow. I can't believe someone said that to you.
But I think you handled it very nicely with your reply!
=)
Congrats on winning the Charming and Delightful post of the week also! =)
I here via Charming and delightful Jill... and I have to say that you handled this with grace!
I agree 100% that when reading blogs becomes a chore, well, it's a chore! It's no fun. I have a new rule that i don't blog on the weekends. I make sure I spend time with my family.
I think you put it in a very respectful and logical way. I check mostly when I am at work because that is my "free" time and it's not even free..I am usually quite busy at work. Still, when I have a minute, I head on there and check out my "fave" blogs and write when something pops out at me. You are on my blogroll. I also check you, well, once a week or so ;)
I don't write as frequently as I used to, and I use Saturday mornings to catch up on my reads. I think with the advent of things like Bloglines, it makes my life easier because i KNOW when you update, or others update, and can check in once instead of 50 times a day just fishing for news.
I don't think it is fair to ever EVER expect a reciprocal constant check in with fellow bloggers. I have just caught up on you since july 25th, not because i didn't want to visit but damn if i wasn't just busy. and i think since july 25th i've written three times in my own journal.
one should write and visit as one has time. that's all. it isn't a hit-count competition, it isn't a comments gathering game. it is your blog, and your choice for who you visit and when.
HA-HA! Hee-hee!
oh, wait! you mean she was serious?
um-hmm. insert big "SIGH" here.
Post a Comment